The Basics of Fours
Fours are often called the Individualists, the Romantics, and the Artists. For a Four, feelings are everything. When Fours are in a healthy place, they are self-aware, reflective, and intuitive; consistently in touch with themselves and others. They are not afraid to “go deep” emotionally and can sit in very painful emotions without abandoning them due to discomfort. Fours are some of the most creative people on the planet, often finding their voice and self-expression in forms of art. Fours tend to see beauty and meaning in everyday life, where others might miss it.
Average or unaware Fours tend to take a romantic, artistic orientation in life, and create their world around expressing themselves. They often heighten and intensify their feelings as a constant attempt to stay in touch with their emotions and stay true to themselves. This can lead to Fours over-intensifying negative feelings, at which point they often become temperamental, moody, and sensitive. When they’re in a negative state, they tend to make others walk on eggshells, and can use those intuitions about others’ emotions to be manipulative.
Another side effect of over-intensifying is that Fours are more prone to being depressed and disdainful, as well as impulsive and overtly sensual. They struggle with having conflicting, passionate feelings inside them, and this can feel like an overwhelming roller coaster to people on the outside. Unhealthy Fours can get to a place of wallowing and despondency. They have allowed their dreams to become completely unrealistic, and feel resentful and even hateful, loathing both others and themselves for the failures.